Values of Love

A few years ago I was asked by a friend to help a lady to deal with cancer. I will call the lady Jenny. This became the time when I learnt the different values of the word Love.

I had been working with Jenny for about two years. One day she came to me in a state of fear after a nightmare she had the night before. She had dreamed she was buried and being eaten alive and she couldn't move. She was terrified.

I asked if she would like some help - her reply was yes. I put her in a relaxed state and ask her if she would like to participate in visualisation with me - she agreed. I asked her to revisit her dream; hesitantly she agreed and quickly re-visited the nightmare because all was still fresh from the night before.
I then asked her to tell me her favourite colour. She selected Purple.

I then asked what beliefs she believed she would like more of to help her to escape this place. She selected, Faith. "Good" I said. I then asked her to visualise holding a large Purple balloon. We then filled this balloon with a mixture of helium and Faith. "Can you see it?" I asked. "Yes" she replied.
I then asked her to select her next best colour,. "Blue" was her reply.
And what other emotion do you believe you need more of to help you out of this place, I asked. "Courage" was her answer.

Again the visualising of holding a Blue balloon, and again the filling with a mixture of helium and this time with the Courage she had selected. This process was repeated 5 more times, new colours plus new beliefs or emotions.

Each time she held the balloon, each time she was encouraged to feel herself being raised up from beneath the ground. After using seven colours, she felt herself floating above the ground only held by her feet. I asked what emotion she believed she would need to raise her that last bit. "Faith".

So I asked her to re-select her Purple balloon full of Faith and we then gave it an extra burst of the mixture. This was the final push and she felt herself pop out and float up into the beautiful blue sky. She said she felt fantastic and free. Like riding on a cloud. It was at this time I encouraged her to fill herself with Love, - self-love. She replied, "No, just let me lay here and enjoy".
I said, "You need to love yourself, you deserve to love yourself". Page No. 3 of 11 "No, I just want to enjoy".

I realized I had to leave her with this state of enjoyment and finished the treatment. Later we sat and talked and I approached the subject of "Love". She said all of her experiences with love had been hurtful. In the name of love she had been beaten, degraded and left, so love was the last thing she needed.

It was my best lesson on allowing the client to have their experience and not to push a point because the books or others say we all must have these emotions I learnt that love can carry many negatives and enjoy or enjoyment could have a higher position than love.

To push Jenny to self-love would have left her in a negative state and this would negate her whole treatment. It was hard for her to put a negative to the word or experiences of enjoy and enjoyment. This has also been my experience.